For many, the first blissful years of marriage, theKamasutra will be your go-to playbook. There will be times where even the slightest touch of fingers will send shivers down your spine. Work will be interrupted with feather-light kisses on the nape of your neck, and you will be tugging at each other’s clothes as soon as you get home. According to a study done by University of Chicago on sexual practises, about 32 percent of married couples get busy in the bedroom three times a week. However, the sparks in your conjugal life doesn’t necessarily have to depend on what works for others. So to better understand each other’s physical and emotional needs, you need to factor in the following.
No need to rush into things
You probably like long leisurely drives and may already be operating at a slower yet sensuous pace of things. You don’t want to chug down that delicious mocktail, but take little sips, every few intervals, and have the feeling trickle down your body. Bunny rabbit sex isn’t you and you can very well let that ship sail. You both have days that are less crowded with chores and kids so when you do find yourself in each other’s presence, it’s fireworks. In the same study they found that 47 percent of the married couples that do it once or twice a week were completely satisfied with the routine.
Beware of the cookie crumble…
Sometimes, one partner is always more sexually inclined than the other. As a result, the less sexual one may feel obligated to have sex and this is where the cookie crumbles, and no one likes that. Don’t feel like you have to do it because it’s a duty; this isn’t laundry. We assure you that nothing is less attractive than just lying there (or sitting up, or bending over) just because you have to give it to them.
More sex translates to just…
More sex and not happiness or wellbeing. When couples fight, there is always someone who asks “are you having enough sex?” If the answer is no, then that causes some raised eyebrows. Just think of it this way. You maybe having obligatory dutiful sex four times a week and orgasming only once, whereas others are doing it only twice a week and enjoying the big-O every single time. Which side do you tilt to now?
So what is ideal?
One completely irrelevant thing couples do is worry about how much sex other couples are having. Honestly, what Mr and Mrs X are doing between the sheets shouldn’t be your business at all. Remember, great sex cannot be measured. If doing it once a week is your calling, then go for it. And if you want that hands on sex every other night then, get you some of that too!
At the end of the day, you need to come and conquer, if you know what I mean. And the frequency is upto you to decide. Enjoy!