Let’s face it- porn isn’t real. What you see on screen isn’t what you will face in the bedroom. When it comes to the discussion of porn, people easily scram to two extremes. Natasha Rahman shows you why the porn industry is doing you more harm than good.
Hinders human intimacy
While we indulge in these sexual fantasies we often forget to draw the fine line which separates reality from fantasy. Sodomy, anal, orgies and sadomasochism fuels impractical expectations in people’s minds and the more you view such films, the more distant you become from actuality. Intimacy makes us thrive both mentally and for some, spiritually. Excessive porn cancels out human intimacy as we start craving for an unworkable desire to emulate porn actors.
The power of sex is misused
Most pornographic films teach you to mistreat the power of sex. And to add insult to injury, the sex is usually vile, violent and abusive. When you put up with too much porn, you start craving for cosmetic relationships. For instance, in some cases when men are in meaningful relationships, subconsciously, they start seeing their partners through a pornographic filter. This may lead to feelings of deep dissatisfaction and emptiness as they continue to view them as the characters they see in pornographic films.
Sexual pleasures plateaus
When you try something for the first time, be it a new burger, an exotic island or porn, the brain activates pleasure receptors that gives you the feeling of euphoria. However, after repeated exposure to the same stimuli, the euphoria spirals downwards. Consequently, we keep trying to reach that same level of ecstasy each time, not realizing that constant exposure is in fact making the pleasure diminish. Hence, the more porn you watch, the more desensitised you become to the graphicness, generating a vacuum in your sexual life.
No element of mystery
Orgasm is indeed a beautiful feeling; but climaxing with your loved one is incomparable. However, the association one makes with the feeling will either make or break it for you. For instance, if you associate desire with the look of your partner, their scent and the warmth of their bodies; that is what will wire your brain to orgasm. Excessive porn dishevels your world of fantasies, as you are exposed to improbable sexual images and expectations, that sometimes you lose the desire for your partner. Porn leaves nothing to the imagination and takes away the sacredness of the act of making love.
Designed and edited for viewing pleasure
Even softcore pornography which produces a novelty factor of ‘perfect sexual mates,’ is harmful for the viewer. As this type of porn creates visuals that seem achievable due to its easy foreplay and tender interactions, failure to replicate that desired image of sexual intimacy creates a sense of incompleteness in the relationship. People often forget that every touch, moan and scream is practiced, directed and finally edited. The brain chemistry is altered in a way which makes violence, dominance, use of objects and unrealistic intimacy something people can aspire to.