According to the latest 2015 survey conducted by the Harvard University on ‘The Secret of Happiness,’ it has been revealed that the most important happiness choice is to invest in our closest relationship; whether it’s a spouse, partner, parent, sibling or friend. It is not money or your cars that give you everlasting happiness, it’s your relationships. Therefore, below you will find some tips that will take your relationship a long way.
Perception
See your relationship as it is, not how it could have been. Be realistic and truthful about how you are and how your partner is. Relationships are a perception in our minds and therefore, a positive perception about your relationship would give out a better projection of it. If you only focus on the weaknesses, you will be bogged down with negativities. However, if you focus on the brighter side of things and count your blessings, the outcome too will be more fulfilling.
Lose that ego
The ego wants to divide your world. It wants to create barriers and separation and play the comparison game. The game where you are better than your partner or worse than your partner only harbours grief. It gives way to fear eventually leading us to build walls. And hiding behind those walls only brings more pain and suffering. Be fearless and express yourself. It takes effort and probably a little bit of heartbreak but once you help thaw out those walls, your partner will be there waiting to embrace you with open arms.
Give unconditionally
Some of the worst challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get or find something: they’re trying to search for someone who’s going to make them feel good. But the reality is different. More often than not, you have to give more than what you can take. It’s important to acknowledge that you, as an individual are already complete, and you don’t need anyone to complete you. Therefore, give more value to your partner and it shall come back to you.
The calm after the storm
We have storms in our relationship which we can destroy it but once the storm passes, if we do not work to improve the relationship it will grow and become a deeper wound. Let time heal the pain, not our wounds. With the right effort and hope, things will get better. And one fine day, you will get there.
Always remember – “The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships” – Anthony Robbins
G. Sumdany Don
Internationally certified, professional corporate trainer, one to one coach, and a motivational speaker.